The doctor said I only had a year or two left, but couldn’t give me an exact timing.
I had started to experience a lot of pain and didn’t want to upset them. That’s why I wrote to you.
I’m a widower of 67, my son is 38 and my daughter is 36.
They both live far away, and have busy lives and their own families, and I feared becoming a burden.
You told me how important it was that I got support, and suggested I ask my kids to visit – even if I chose not to tell them I was dying yet.
You also recommended I contact Pain Concern (painconcern.org.uk, 0300 123 0789).
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I can’t begin to express my gratitude. Your care brought me so much hope and comfort.
Seeing my children and grandchildren took my mind off my pain and I was able to break the news gently.
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By being honest with them, you have been able to process your difficult news – together.
I hope you continue to find comfort and spend quality time with your loved ones.