But now I’m having feelings for another cross-dresser.
I’m 45 and have been single for nine years.
My ex and I split when she learned I liked to wear women’s clothes at home. She called it “disturbing”.
But over the past year, my confidence to dress as a woman in public has grown, thanks to really supportive colleagues.
They also encouraged me to start dating again.
Recently, I got talking to a lovely guy on a cross-dressing forum.
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We’ve met a few times and get on really well. I’d like to see him more, but I’m confused.
Do my feelings for him mean I’m gay?
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